Here’s the situation:My wife’s nephew is getting married.His wife is from a family with money.They’re getting married in Hawaii.My wife’s family (and us) cannot afford this and told the couple this.His Mother would have to borrow the money to go .The bride-to-be is adamant about it and there is no changing her mind because her sister was married there.Now get this:after learning that no one could afford to go,Daddy Warbucks offers to fly us there and put us up in a hotel for the better part of a week.To me,this is demeaning and has been handled wrong.He should have offered up front if he was willing to do this.His daughter knew ahead of time the financial burden that it would be to everyone.Now,my wife wants to go because she is close to her nephew.I am not willing to go and spend money we don’t have and take time from work to go across the country.I really don’t want her to go ,either,but are my hands tied?I don’t want to argue…what are your thoughts?
