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Who should pay for the bridesmaid’s gown?

I just wanted to hear some opinions on my situation. What would you do in my case.

I am having a wedding this spring and my bridal party consists of 3 people: 2 girls and a guy. My maid of honor is flying in from another country 2-3 days before the event. I wanted the 2 girls wearing two identical dresses and a guy wearing a vest and a tie the same color as their dresses.

My maid of honor asked me if I am sure I want to pick out the dress for her by myself since there will be only 2 days to alter it in case something does not fit. I said who else will? And she said that she could schedule an appointment with seamstress right away but only in case I will pay for the dress, otherwise she wants to find a dress herself in her country that fits the description of the dress I want her to wear.

Who should pay for the bridesmaids dresses? As far as I remember, in all the weddings I’ve been to the bridesmaids paid for the dresses. (I still have the old bridesmaid dress hanging in my closet. It cost me about $300)

I am afraid that if she’ll pick a dress on her own, it will not be exact match to the other girl’s dress. I was going to find 2 dresses for under $150 and even put a deposit on them myself, but now I don’t even know what to do.

Does the bride traditionally pays for everyone’s gown?
I don’t want to make a big deal out of it, but it kind of upset me that she is sort of giving me an ultimatum. Her wedding is going to be sometime at the end of this year and she probably will want me to pay for my own dress. And I also will have to fly abroad to attend the wedding. I do want things to be my way, since it is my wedding and my first wedding I didn’t get exactly what I wanted, so this time I want everything.

What do you do?

What do you do if you are the manager of a team and this is the situation?:

There are two very quick runners on first and second with one out. It is the bottom of the ninth and your starting pitcher is still on the mound wit h no one warming up. The man at the plate is 3-3 today with 3 HR’s and 57 HR’s this season. The game is tied. You need to either get an out then another, or a double play. Do you…

Put him on intentionally. This is a dangerous move, because then the other team just needs a deep fly out, to get the sacrifice and win the game.

Or, do you…

Pitch to him. This is also risky, because you’re hoping for the double play, BUT this man is 3-3 today with 3 HR’s. If he homers or even singles deep, there is a chance that the other team can win.

(This is the bottom of the ninth in the SEVENTH GAME OF THE WORLD SERIES 2007.)

What do you do? Choose wisely.

What do you think I should do…?

Here’s the situation:My wife’s nephew is getting married.His wife is from a family with money.They’re getting married in Hawaii.My wife’s family (and us) cannot afford this and told the couple this.His Mother would have to borrow the money to go .The bride-to-be is adamant about it and there is no changing her mind because her sister was married there.Now get this:after learning that no one could afford to go,Daddy Warbucks offers to fly us there and put us up in a hotel for the better part of a week.To me,this is demeaning and has been handled wrong.He should have offered up front if he was willing to do this.His daughter knew ahead of time the financial burden that it would be to everyone.Now,my wife wants to go because she is close to her nephew.I am not willing to go and spend money we don’t have and take time from work to go across the country.I really don’t want her to go ,either,but are my hands tied?I don’t want to argue…what are your thoughts?