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Hell, take advantage of the situation….go and spend all this guys money!
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If you wife wants to go, you had better go to make her happy. Unhappy wives make unhappy husbands.
Or put your foot down if you have the guts to do so, and tell her you aren’t going and you are making a stand.
This is really your choice and hers, you know.
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Suck it up and take the tickets and the hotel. ITs not up to daddy warbucks to pay for anything. Sounds like he is being kind so here family can attend.
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Why not make the suggestion that they have 2 ceremonies or two receptions? One for the wealthy and one for the real people.
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spending money that you dont have …… your going to miss money that you dont have by missing work. Let her go if she wants to go. It could be a lady’s thing.
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well, they do say the father of the bride is suppose to pay for everthing, so i would say go!
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hey well you are right and nephew and bride need to be more considerate, but it is their weding, well if u can’t go let your wife enjoy it, I mean is her nephew but need it to dicused this in a good way try to make you point and see how she is how she feels about it. ok try to understand too and be in her shoes for one sec…
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Let the bride’s side pay for the ticket(s). If you don’t want to go (because of your principal) then at least let your wife go to the wedding. You don’t have a lot of saying in this because it’s not YOUR wedding. Be happy for your nephew and be there to support him on his wedding day.
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ok well they have went about it the wrong way but who are you going to be there for, its not her or her family, its your nephew. Look at his position and look at how hurt if no one from his family showed up. Swallow you pride and accept and thank them for the offer but let them know that you can not afford to pay it back but you appreciate it. Just remember this is for your nephew and wife. Hold your head up high and go and enjoy. good luck
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Stop your Belly-Aching & go.
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my feelings on a wedding anywhere out of state is that the people who love and care for the bride/groom most will show up to the wedding no matter the cost or situation. im sorta in the same boat as you. my future sis-in-law wants to get married in vegas. i cant afford a plane ticket to vegas but darnit, i love her to pieces and wouldnt miss that wedding for the world. i will have to find a way to save some money or borrow from my parents but its worth seeing someone i love and care about get married. my advice it to do what you feel is best. if your wife wants to go…let her. you dont have to go just because she is. he is HER nephew. i dont know the personality of “daddy warbucks” but that was nice of him to even offer a flight AND hotel. he could have been an a$$ and ignored your tight situation. to me hes trying to allow you to be a part in his daughters future with your wifes nephew. he wants you to see them get married (this is how i see it). try not to be bitter because the parents have money and you dont. at least he offered at some point. maybe the father didnt realize that everone was so broke. i say dont be so proud and just take his offer, after all, he will be family. but if you really dont feel it necessary to go, have your wife go alone or with a friend/other family member. good luck to the bride and groom and to both of you!
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I think that you should put your false pride away, don’t worry about feeling inferior (because you as a person are not… financially, you simply are). Most people are. If he is offering a wonderful time in Hawaii, and is willing to foot the bill (just consider it an extension of the party), go and enjoy the time with your wife.
One thing to consider is reality. Wish: you have as much money as he does. Reality: You don’t. Concern: “Everyone” will know, and be as worried about it as you are. Reality: “Daddy Warbucks” probably has other things to worry about than whether your pride is injured, and won’t give it a 2nd thought. He sounds like he is being gracious. Just accept that you are your worst enemy in this situation, that you don’t make the money he does (and you both put your socks on one foot at a time). The other thing to think about is that this is a wedding and a family get together… it is about a young couple who want your wife and you there. Don’t get fussy and spoil it for someone else.
Go to the islands, and have a great time~!
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If the tickets and hotels have already been paid for, GO! I know alot of people who don’t see money as an abject and could care less how much they spend as long as people are happy. This guy has been more than generous to help the family out so they can witness this wedding, so don’t be rude by rejecting his gift.
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“Pride goes before a fall.”
Sounds like someones a little jealous. What’s demeaning about offering to pay your way to Hawaii. The brides father offered to pay when you said you couldn’t. He loves his daughter and respects your nephew so much that he offered to help. Your attitude is all wrong and you’re going to pay for it later- In one way or another. Go with your family and have a good time. Get to know these people and keep peace in the family. They might be really nice.
Understand that people don’t always say the right things or handle certain situations appropriately, but you can turn that around with a little understanding and forgiveness.
Your wife will think your a PRINCE who’s reached a new level of enlightenment if you just suck this up. You also get to tell the people at work, “Yep,(big sigh) I had to take the wife to Hawaii this year. It was a little pricey, but you know how women are. Heh, Heh, Heh.”
Honestly, men.
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In defense of the bride, I’m sure your financial problems were the LAST thing on her mind right now, no offense! She’s planning a wedding and everything included. When it was mentioned that you wouldn’t be able to go to the wedding due to money issues, I’m sure she just told her dad that it wasn’t right for the family not to go. Dad might have volunteered to pay ya’lls way as his present to the marrying couple, did you think about that?
I understand that your job is very important, but this is important to you wife, so if you are unwilling to compromise and go, then send your wife. It is her family, and she needs to be there.
Why should the bride alter her wedding dreams, if her family has the means to make it happen for her? I think you need to just suck it up and go! Not everyone gets a chance to fly for free to Hawaii and spend a week there, so my advice is to take advantage of it, it may never happen again!
Be the bigger man here, for your wife, and go to the wedding!
Been to Hawaii before, and its wonderful….Hotel is what might cost, but since the brides dad is buying, all you have to do is worry about food. Everything in Hawaii is practically within walking distance, so no need for a car….HAVE FUN, I DID!
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talk it out with your wife.if you can swallow your pride and allow daddy warbucks to foot the bill for everything to make her happy, just look at it as a paid vacation!
Been to Hawaii before, and its wonderful….Hotel is what might cost, but since the brides dad is buying, all you have to do is worry about food. Everything in Hawaii is practically within walking distance, so no need for a car….HAVE FUN, I DID!
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You said it yourself;
‘I am not willing to go and spend money we don’t have and take time from work to go across the country.’
~You’re~ the one who isn’t willing – if it was me, I’d bite the man’s hand off at the armpit. It’s an extremely generous offer from a man who wants his daughter’s day to be a happy one, and that means the daughter’s groom’s day as well. The boy isn’t going to be happy if half his family don’t turn up to what is ~his~ big day as well.
I think you shouldn’t be so hung-up about who is paying or the motives behind it, and see it as a chance to make ~your~ wife happy as well. If you capitulate gracefully then she’ll love you forever (had a second honeymoon yet, by the way? – Hawaii sounds good to me….). You also said she’s close to her nephew, so you need to take that ~very~ much into account. Stand by those pompous, prideful principles of yours and she will resent the fact that you stopped her from going forever, too. Resentful wives make terrible divorcees. Your choice.
Been to Hawaii before, and its wonderful….Hotel is what might cost, but since the brides dad is buying, all you have to do is worry about food. Everything in Hawaii is practically within walking distance, so no need for a car….HAVE FUN, I DID!
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